I have woken up to screaming every day for pretty much 2 years. “MoooOOOOOoooooM!” It is quite a jolting way to start your day. Someone screaming at the top of their lungs, and needing, water, breakfast, a diaper change. And when I’m tired, I am moody as hell.
It’s become a horrible habit, and I’m not sure how it started. One day people started screaming at me, and I just went along with it.
I groggily walk into the kids rooms, and get them dressed, fed, packed their lunch and refereed any arguments before I even brushed my teeth. Oy, I’m so tired by the time I’m finally ready to start MY day.
You know when you are on an airplane and they tell you to put on your face mask before you put it on your kids? Well, I sure as shit don’t do that. I don’t take care of myself before I take care of others. This is something I have to WORK towards, because it does not come naturally for me.
And I’m not the only one. I know it.
So, I started with a teeny list of shit I want to get done before my kids wake up.
Small- like, Make the bed.
After a week of doing that consistently, I added to it.
Journal my gratitude list
Then a little more….
Add a list of 5 lifetime goals, and 5 daily goals or to do’s.
Add a little more- Now, I meditate (Inconsistently, TBH) This one is hard for me in the mornings.
Holy shit- I developed a habit. And it’s a good one!
Right now, I’m working on the meditation one. It’s the hardest for me, because I’m still thinking about what I have to do when the kids wake up, or I’m so concerned that the kids are going to wake up, I can’t silence my mind. Or- I spend 40 min finding a guided meditation and I never have time to actually meditate.
But it’s okay, release the expectations and be nice to yourself. If you miss a day, that’s okay- Don’t freak out and don’t beat yourself up. IT’S A PRACTICE. And some days I don’t even finish my morning routine until 4pm, because shit happens and I can’t get it together until then.
So I’m asking you to join me- on a 7 day Challenge. STARTING THURSDAY.
7 days and let’s see if we can accomplish a morning routine together. A little self care and grace, and trying something new. Please, Let us know how it goes and how you felt.
Zen as Fuck is all about adding a little more completeness to your life, but having realistic expectations about it.
So, if you want to, join us. We would love to have you.