A call to action
I read Ariana’s post Schedule that shit and I was so annoyed. Now I had to do something to take care of myself. What kind of jackass would I be to let my home girl put that advice in print and not act on it. Sure we say it to each other EVERY WEEK like “Girl take time for yourself” or “what are you doing for yourself this week?” and instead of actually doing anything we march on carrying out all our roles and completely putting ourselves on the back burner.
I know that I will get distracted at nap time (my two hours to myself) with cleaning or my little home projects and put anything I had planned for myself to the side. Then at bedtime I will reassure myself that tomorrow I will do better…but I never do. So I need a plan to schedule some self care and I started by answering these questions.
- What makes me feel energized?
- What do I want to do with an hour of my time that I can’t do with the kids?
- When can I schedule this so it actually gets done?
- What do I need to make it happen?
For me being active is a huge stress reliever and makes me feel great on so many levels. Finding time to exercise with the two babies has been nothing short of a nightmare. I tried mommy and me boot camp classes, groupons to different studios/crossfit gyms and recently I signed up at the YMCA since they have child care. Going to the Y has by far been the best situation for me but I do spend the first 15 minutes getting both my girls to unclench my shirt from their tiny sweaty hands and go play. Because I always have the girls with me if they are sick or moody or theres a fucking full moon we never make it to the gym, which is basically every other day.
Ok so what’s my plan?
- Working out energizes me and boosts my overall mood and happiness with my appearance
- I want to work out for one hour 3-4 days a week
- Schedule wise I need to go in the morning before everyone is up- the path of least resistance
- What do I need to get this done? I need my husband and the ability to ask for help
I can write a freaking novel about why we need to ask for help more and why we as moms and dads should not feel bad about it. For the sake this post lets just say I had to give myself permission to ask for help, to inconvenience my husband so I can get what I need. When I get what I need I can take care of the kids, my relationship with my husband and I am a more patient and caring mother and partner.
So Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday last week I woke up at 4:45 go to the gym from 5:15-6:15 then come home and shower while the baby has her first bottle and plays on the bathroom floor. Sure i’m tired, but what’s new… i’ve been tired for two years. I am loving the new schedule so far and really believe that one hour of ME time is making a big impact on my daily life. I need 947 more self care tips to keep me up and running! If you have any leave them in the comments below 🙂
Stay Zen Bitches